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Buckle up (or should I say wrap it up?). This one is triggering but fascinating…if you can handle it.

Roland Cochran, an expert in porn and sex addiction, has lived this battle. He got caught cheating on his wife, but the problem started long before that. By 11, he already felt addicted to porn.

This addiction occurs when dopaminergic practices take over, chasing focus and motivation until the world stops. 

The problem with our culture, according to Roland, is that we are porn and sex-obsessed, especially men. “Male culture says men like sex, we like looking at women, and we get to do it.”

1 in 4 Google searches is for adult material. And it’s only getting worse. Roland describes an insane update in the world of AI, where people now have unprecedented control over imaginary sex fantasies.

So if it’s so common, how do you know when you’re out of control? Ask these three questions: Is there consent? Are you lying or hiding life-altering information? Is this sustainable?

The message is everywhere: success equals sex. Every music video shows a powerful man surrounded by beautiful women. Ads use sexuality to sell everything from cars to cologne.

Roland pleads for a fight to humanize people.

So what if this is you or someone you know? Roland's advice is to recognize the problem. Get scared, come clean and seek therapeutic disclosure with a certified sex addiction therapist.

As for our teenage boys, are they destined for a world of all or nothing? Sex obsession or bust? This affects 18% of men. The reality is we need to talk about it and normalize the conversation.

Desire is normal—but this goes way beyond an orgasm.

WHAT’S INSIDE:

It could not have been just me but I was cringing left and right. It’s hard to feel bad for men who get pleasure from objectifying women, especially successful men. And what about no safe use of porn? I feel like I need a more sex-positive take. Let me know on Insta!

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